Date a girl who never challenges you.
Find her in a crowded , dimly lit bar ; sitting on the corner table, glancing at you. Look back at her with your mesmerizing eyes. And the smart man that you are , ask the bartender about her drink and floor her by reaching out to her with two glasses of it and a beautiful ice breaking line.
Look into her beautiful eyes. Drown in the shine of her skin. Compliment her for her beautiful dress and laugh inwardly. Strike conversations.
Escort her out of that crowded place with your hand on her waist. Like a real gentleman. Go for a walk under the deep night sky. Hold hands and then make that moment precious by sealing it with a kiss under that lamp post, because thats how they show it in the movies. Acknowledge its insignificance too. Drive her back to her apartment , insist for a glass of water and leave after making love to her. Exchange phone numbers.
Call her the next morning and the next night . Keep meeting her in bars, at movies. Let this acquaint evolve into an uncomfortable relationship. Try to Match your interests. Keep meeting her when the evenings get lonely. Let the months pass insignificantly. Have few meaningless conversations everyday. Do little thinking. Move in with her, or ask her to move in . Get into fights about inconsequential things like getting friendly with your colleague, or spending more time in your gym, or how a wet towel on the bed results in ruining the bed cover. Let an year pass un-noticed.
Now its been many similar months and many similar years, so you should think about getting married, else she might find some one else. So , you book a table at the most expensive restaurant in the city. Ask her to dress up for a surprise. Tell the waiter to bring the ring hidden in the dessert and when she acknowledges it with a big surprise , or a tear , or a big smile , just smile back as if you had never been happier.
Let more years pass, un-noticed. Do your job. Fuck her and make some babies. Try to teach them well. Go for holidays . Have a mid life crises. Grow old wondering at your lack of achievement. Feel content sometimes, but mostly vacant. Die , but only after you observe that the girl who did not challenge you, never made your heart oscillate with any significant passion. That no one will write the story of your lives, that she will die too one day , with a medium tempered regret that there was always something missing.
You must do all those things because a girl who is a challenger, sucks. She is ball of fire which will roll all over you and you will only be finding ways either to save yourself from the wrath or accept her challenges. She will make you work. She would not accept discontent. While demanding from you she will take you to places inside of your own which you yourself had never seen. She will shake you and show you the heights and lengths and breadths of achievements.
Never ever fall in love with such a girl , or let her love you , because if she fell in love with you , she will make sure all those parts of your alien world become accessible to you. She challenges you because she sees your worth. She has read your silenced dreams and wishes in the back of your stormy eyes, in the silence of your pretended laughter . She has seen your naked soul with her mind. Why would you want to risk being caught so weak? She will push you to your limits and then will make you break them. You will be like a vulnerable child in her presence. she will make your life so goddamn difficult.
A girl who sees you eye to eye will make your life hell. She will give you tasks because she knows how every dream is built. Her strong conscious has taught her the importance of always being on the toes. She will be your worst friend , cause she will never let you stop. But every-time you forcibly achieve a long forgotten dream of your life ; do observe that tiny tinge of mad happiness inside your heart. She will define new passions with you ; because while she challenges you , she is upping her game as well.
You will be all weary , shredded by the end of your life with such a woman. You will not be the person that you started as. You might look back at the journey on your dying day and be overwhelmed with the Adrenalin rush gushing through your veins as each moment passes through your eyes. You will end as a much better version of you.
But , would that be worth all this chaos ?
